When poet Avvaiyar visited the court of Athiyamān Nedumān Añci, he liked her so much that he deliberately delayed in giving her gifts to prolong her stay. The poet at first not realizing the game, got angry and condemned him and then later when she realized the true motive, became so fond him that she decided to stay and became his close friend. On another occasion, he gave her a rare gooseberry(nelli in Tamil) that was considered to improve one's life expectancy.[2]
A warrior
Avvaiyar described her patron as a hardened warrior, Purananuru, song 87:
Enemies! take care, when you enter the field of battle, Among us is a warrior, who is like a chariot wheel, made painstakingly by a carpenter, who tosses off eight chariots in a day![7]
In 118 CE, another king Malaiyamān Thirumudi Kāri of the Kadai ezhu vallal waged war on Thagadoor against Athiyamān Nedumān Añci. It was an attempt fuelled by his longtime desire to become an emperor equivalent in power to the Cholas. After a fierce battle, Kāri lost Kovalur to Athiyamān and only regained it much later after Peruncheral Irumporai sacked Tagadur.[8]
Friendship with the Cholas
Athiyamān Nedumān Añci lived in one of the most turbulent periods and was looking at an imminent invasion by the
Chera king.[9]Avvaiyar was given a grand welcome by Tondaimān who then went on to proudly show her his archery. Though impressed, Avvaiyar refused to give up her patron by subtly hinting that the king's weapons sparkled as they were probably never used whereas the arsenal of her patron were all worn out as they had seen numerous wars.[2][9]
Valiant opponent of Peruñcēral Irumporai
But this congregation of Nedumān Añci with the
Chera emperor, Peruñcēral Irumporai who finally arrived and sacked Tagadur. In spite of his small army, Nedumān Añci,led from the front and valiantly went down fighting in the battle field. AricilKilār, the war bard of Peruñcēral Irumporai, paid due homage to the opponent of his patron as he eulogised his king in Tagadur-Yāttarai.[10]
Upon his death, a distressed Avvaiyar sang a number of elegies:
If he had a little liquor, he would give it to us Where is he now? ..if he had even a little rice, he shared it in many plates Where is he now? ..He gave us all the flesh on the bones Where is he now? Wherever spear and arrows flew, he was there Where is he now? ..father, mainstay, king Where is he now?.[11]