To Her Inconstant Lover
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Isabella Whitney's 16th-century poem "To her unconstant Lover" is the first in her first book The Copy of a Letter, Lately Written in Meter by a Young Gentlewoman: to her Unconstant Lover (1567). The speaker is Whitney herself, who is, as the title of the poem indicates, writing to her unfaithful, or inconstant lover.
Upcoming marriage of Whitney's lover
Whitney begins by telling her lover that she has learned he is going to be married, despite his secrecy: "as close as you your wedding kept". Whitney alternates between speaking as the jilted lover, reminding him what he is missing out on by abandoning her, and acting as a kind of counselor. Whitney tells him, "you know I alwayes wisht you wel", and hopes that God will send him a "good wyfe"; however, she suggests that if he wanted her back, he could have her.
Allusions to Greek mythology
Whitney notes numerous treacherous men from
, after she saves his life on countless occasions).Whitney encourages her lover to be not like these men, but like
She hopes this wife will have: the beauty of
Relationship advice to her lover
Although Whitney clearly feels abandoned, she takes the moral high ground by wishing her lover the best, and offering him relationship advice. She completes her poem, or letter, as a morally virtuous woman, and not a victim.