The Conversation (Mad About You)

"The Conversation" is the ninth episode of the sixth season of the American sitcom Mad About You, written by executive producer Victor Levin and directed by Gordon Hunt. The episode originally aired on December 16, 1997, on NBC. The plot sees married couple Paul (Paul Reiser) and Jamie Buchman (Helen Hunt) have a 20-minute conversation as they allow their infant daughter Mabel to cry herself to sleep for the first time.

"The Conversation" is a

The episode was seen by 17.9 million viewers, giving the show its largest audience since the sixth-season premiere. It received a mixed reaction following its broadcast, with critics praising Reiser and Hunt's performances, and the honest and funny script. However, one critic called it the "most annoying Mad About You episode ever".^[1] In later years, it has been named one of television's best bottle episodes.

Plot

Jamie (Helen Hunt) and Paul Buchman (Paul Reiser) put their infant daughter Mabel to bed, and wait outside her bedroom door to see if she will go to sleep on her own. Jamie sets a timer for intervals that allow them to check on Mabel, but they can only comfort her verbally. Paul is unhappy with the method, as he wants to go in and hold Mabel, but Jamie insists that it will be good for her and stops him from going into the room early. As they wait outside the door, Paul and Jamie talk about various topics, including Jamie winning 500 pounds of rigatoni, Paul's concern that he is shrinking, and his sudden realization that they have a cabinet by the room. When Jamie discovers their dog Murray is in the bedroom, Paul has to crawl in and get Murray out. Paul picks up a magazine featuring a sales listing for a house, and he admits that he wants to move to the suburbs.

Paul and Jamie argue over city and suburban living, leading Jamie to remark that they are completely incompatible as parents, as they disagree on almost everything. Jamie feels sick, and Paul helps her to realize that her gut instinct is telling her to pick up Mabel. However, just before they go in, they hear that Mabel has finally fallen asleep. Jamie tells Paul that they have broken Mabel's heart because she knows that they will not always be there for her. Paul stops Jamie from going into the room, as he worries that they will wake her. Jamie then tells him to turn back the clock, and they remain outside the door. Later, they watch a film together, and Paul points out a scene is all one-shot, but Jamie is not impressed.

Production

Conception and writing

Paul Reiser (left) and Helen Hunt (right) are the only cast members featured in the episode.

The sitcom's executive producer Victor Levin wrote the script, believing that an episode focusing on

Reiser told The Record's Virginia Rohan that all parents go through a version of Ferberization at some point.^[3] As the episode plays out, Paul and Jamie come to realize they have very different parenting styles.^[2] They argue and converse, which brings up "surprising revelations", including Paul's views on where they raise their daughter.^[3] Reiser said that the bottle episode format was something the show's personnel had always wanted to try, following a season one episode set in the bathroom.^[4] He commented, "if the story is compelling enough, you could put an entire episode in an elevator".^[4] However, they were unable to find such a story until the sixth season.^[4] Levin said that Mad About You had plans for an experimental episode before medical drama ER aired its live episode that same year. He told McAlister that the format was the right way for the story to be told and that it was not a stunt.^[2]

Filming and broadcast

Hunt's father Gordon Hunt directed "The Conversation".^[5] To prepare for filming, the cast and crew had to know the exact length of the script, so they would not run over the time or run too short. Levin told McAlister that the script was "accurately timed out", so they knew how long the lines took to say.^[6] Rehearsals did not differ from regular episodes, but there were two "practice runs" during the afternoon of the shoot.^[3] The episode was filmed with a single camera in one take, so it plays out in real time.^[5][6] Reiser confirmed the episode took 25 minutes to film compared with the usual three hours.^[3]

The episode was filmed twice, with and without a studio audience. The take with the audience was the version that was broadcast.^[2] Levin confirmed the audience had a positive reaction to the script and jokes saying, "I think they felt they were part of something unusual."^[2] At one point, Paul and Jamie realize their dog Murray is in the bedroom with Mabel, and Paul has to crawl in to get Murray out.^[3] The dog's timing surprised Reiser and he was appreciative that the scene went well, saying "we were working on our lines, and he was working on his little belly crawl".^[3]

"The Conversation" was originally broadcast without interruption from commercials, which were aired at the beginning after the theme song and just before the credits.^[5][7] Levin expressed his gratitude to the NBC network for helping with the process.^[2] He also revealed the lack of commercials impacted the writing. Despite being one scene, he made sure that the episode had a beginning, middle and end. He told McAlister that he wanted it to be "as impactful and big feeling" as any show with multiple scenes.^[6] In the episode's tag, Paul and Jamie watch a film in a similar style as the episode, and Jamie expresses her dislike of the one-take approach.^[7]

Reception

Ratings

For its original broadcast, "The Conversation" finished 12th in the ratings for the week of December 15–21, 1997. It was seen by 17.94 million viewers according to Nielsen Media Research, giving Mad About You its largest audience since the sixth-season premiere in September.^[8] It was the seventh most-watched show on NBC that week, behind episodes of ER, Seinfeld, Veronica's Closet, Friends, Union Square and Frasier.^[8]

Critical response

Writing for

In contrast, The Baltimore Sun's David Zurawik found that 22 minutes of a crying baby was "way too much", and he believed that "The Conversation" was a good example of how "baby-obsessed" the sitcom had become.^[12] Zurawik also reported that USA Today gave the episode a thumbs-down saying that Mabel was the "most ill-conceived television baby since Murphy Brown's controversial Avery."^[12] Mike Duffy of the Detroit Free Press branded "The Conversation" the "most annoying Mad About You episode ever". He added commercials would have been a welcome interruption.^[1]

A reporter for The Desert Sun had a mixed reaction, saying it was "a sweet episode that's a little slack in the middle, but ends quite poignantly".^[13] Diane Shipley from the British newspaper The Guardian thought the plot was "ill-conceived", but the filming format "was an impressive acting achievement, but one that replicated the noise and tedium of early parenthood far too effectively".^[14]

Impact and legacy

In 2013, Jennifer Wood of Mental Floss included "The Conversation" in her feature on the "10 Best Bottle Episodes of Your Favorite TV Shows". Wood wrote "director Gordon Hunt channeled his inner Ingmar Bergman to do the unthinkable: drop a camera on the floor of the Buchmans' apartment and leave it there. For the entire show. Whether the actors were in the shot or not."^[15] She called it "pretty revolutionary stuff" and said the tag was "a clever nod" to the format.^[15] Kaitlynn Smith of TV Fanatic included the episode in her feature on "Amazing Bottle Episodes", calling it "one of the most challenging and well-executed" of the format.^[16]