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Compassionate communication

http://www.malindaelizabethberry.net/uploads/8/4/7/8/84786408/deck_guide.pdf

https://www.lovesmartcards.com/about/

Nonviolent Communication – Feelings & Needs

Words for Feelings

https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory

http://www.groktheworld.com/sites/default/files/product-upload-files/Feelings%20Inventory_0.pdf

Feelings we may have when our needs are not satisfied

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Afraid
Apprehensive
Dread
Foreboding
Frightened
Mistrustful
Panicky
Petrified
Scared
Suspicious
Terrified
Wary
Worried
Annoyed
Aggravated
Dismayed
Disgruntled
Displeased
Exasperated
Frustrated
Impatient
Irritated
Irked
Angry
Enraged
Furious
Incensed
Indignant
Irate
Livid
Outraged
Resentful
Aversion
Animosity
Appalled
Contempt
Disgusted
Dislike
Hate
Horrified
Hostile
Repulsed
Confused
Ambivalent
Baffled
Bewildered
Dazed
Hesitant
Lost
Mystified
Perplexed
Puzzled
Torn
Disconnected
Alienated
Aloof
Apathetic
Bored
Cold
Detached
Distant
Distracted
Indifferent
Numb
Removed
Uninterested
Withdrawn
Disquiet
Agitated
Alarmed
Concerned]
Discombobulated
Disconcerted
Disturbed
Indecisive]
Perturbed
Rattled
Restless
Shocked
Startled
Surprised
Troubled
Turbulent
Turmoil
Uncomfortable
Uneasy
Unnerved
Unsettled
Upset
Embarrassed
Ashamed
Chagrined
Disappointed]
Flustered
Guilty
Mortified
Self-Conscious
Fatigue
Beat
Burnt Out
Depleted
Exhausted
Lethargic
Listless
Sleepy
Tired
Weary
Worn Out
Pain
Agony
Alienated]
Anguished
Bereaved
Devastated
Grief
Heartbroken
Hurt
Lonely
Miserable
Regretful
Remorseful
Sad
Depressed
Dejected
Despair
Despondent
Discouraged
Disheartened
Forlorn
Gloomy
Heavy Hearted
Hopeless
Melancholy
Unhappy
Wretched
Tense
Anxious
Cautious]
Conflicted]
Cranky
Distressed
Distraught
Edgy
Fidgety
Frazzled
Irritable
Jittery
Nervous
Overwhelmed
Restless
Stressed Out
Vulnerable
Fragile
Guarded
Helpless
In a Stew]
Insecure
Leery
Reserved
Sensitive
Shaky
Yearning
Envious
Jealous
Longing
Nostalgic
Pining
Wistful

Feelings we may have when our needs are satisfied

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Affectionate
Compassionate
Friendly
Loving
Open Hearted
Sympathetic
Tender
Touched]
Warm
Engaged
Absorbed
Alert
Curious
Engrossed
Enchanted
Entranced
Fascinated
Interested
Intrigued
Involved
Spellbound
Stimulated
Hopeful
Expectant
Encouraged
Optimistic
Confident
Clever]
Empowered
Open
Proud
Sage
Secure
Excited
Amazed
Animated
Ardent
Aroused
Astonished
Dazzled
Eager
Energetic
Enthusiastic
Giddy
Invigorated
Lively
Passionate
Surprised
Vibrant
Grateful
Appreciative
Moved
Thankful
Touched
Inspired
Amazed
Awed
Wonder
Joyful
Amused
Delighted
Glad
Happy
Jubilant
Pleased
Tickled
Exhilarated
Blissful
Ecstatic
Elated
Enthralled
Exuberant
Radiant
Rapturous
Thrilled
Peaceful
Calm
Clear Headed
Comfortable
Centered
Content
Equanimous
Fulfilled
Mellow
Quiet
Relaxed
Relieved
Satisfied
Serene
Still
Tranquil
Trusting
Refreshed
Enlivened
Rejuvenated
Renewed
Rested
Restored
Revived

Body Sensations

http://www.groktheworld.com/sites/default/files/product-upload-files/Body%20Sensations.pdf

  1. Achy
  2. Airy
  3. Antsy
  4. Bloated
  5. Blocked
  6. Bouyiant
  7. Breathless
  8. Bubbly
  9. Burning
  10. Buzzy
  11. Chilly
  12. Cold
  13. Cool
  14. Congested
  15. Constricted
  16. Clammy
  17. Clenched
  18. Damp
  19. Dense
  20. Dizzy
  21. Drained
  22. Dull
  23. Effervescent
  24. Electric
  25. Empty
  26. Energized
  27. Expansive
  28. Faint
  29. Flaccid
  30. Flowing
  31. Fluid
  32. Flushed
  33. Fluttery
  34. Frantic
  35. Frozen
  36. Full
  37. Fuzzy
  38. Goose bumpy
  39. Hollow
  40. Hot
  41. Heavy
  42. Icy
  43. Itchy
  44. Jittery
  45. Jumbled
  46. Jumpy
  47. Lax
  48. Lethargic
  49. Light
  50. Light-headed
  51. Limp
  52. Loose
  53. Lumpy
  54. Mild
  55. Nauseous
  56. Numb
  57. Open
  58. Paralyzed
  59. Pounding
  60. Pressure
  61. Prickly
  62. Puffy
  63. Pulsing
  64. Queasy
  65. Quivery
  66. Radiant
  67. Relaxed
  68. Scrunchy
  69. Shaky
  70. Sharp
  71. Shivery
  72. Shuddery
  73. Sneezy
  74. Sore
  75. Spazzy
  76. Spinning
  77. Squirrelly
  78. Squirmy
  79. Still
  80. (like I’m)
  81. Suffocating
  82. Sweaty
  83. Teetery
  84. Tender
  85. Tense
  86. Thick
  87. Throbbing
  88. Tight
  89. Tightness of skin
  90. Tingly
  91. Trembly
  92. Tremulous
  93. Twisted
  94. Twitchy
  95. Unstable
  96. Warm
  97. Weak
  98. Wobbly

Needs Inventory

https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory

http://www.groktheworld.com/sites/default/files/product-upload-files/Needs.pdf

A starting place to find support & facilitate greater understanding

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Connection
Acceptance
Acknowledgement]
Affection
Appreciation
Belonging
Consideration]
Cooperation
Communication
Closeness
Community
Companionship
Compassion
Consideration
Consistency
Empathy
Honoring Agreements]
Inclusion
Intimacy
Kindness]
Love
Mutuality
Nurture
Recognition]
Respect
Self-Respect
Security
Shared Reality]
Sharing]
Stability
Support
Tenderness]
To Explore & Honor My Values]
To Know & Be Known
To See & Be Seen
To be Seen for My True Intentions]
Transparency]
Trust
Warmth
Physical Well-Being
Food, Water, Air, Shelter
Physical Movement
Exercise
Pleasure]
Rest & Sleep
Sexual Expression
Safety
Solitude]
Touch
Honesty
Authenticity
Integrity
Presence
Play
Fun]
Joy
Humor
Laughter]
Peace
Beauty
Communion
Ease
Equality
Harmony
Inspiration
Order
Autonomy
Choice
Fairness & Justice]
Freedom
Independence
Interdependence]
Power with]
Space
Spontaneity
Meaning
Accomplishment]
Awareness
Celebration
Challenge
Clarity
Competence
Consciousness
To Contribute
Creativity
Discovery
Efficacy
Effectiveness
Expression]
Grieving]
Hope
Learning & Growth
Mourning [Loss]
Participation
Purpose
Self-Expression
Sensory Stimulation
To Matter
Understanding
Visions & Dreams]

Empathy Buddy Guidelines

Empathy, in NVC, is first and foremost about holding presence for another person. This exercise is designed to recharge our “empathy batteries.”

  1. . Review potential Empathy Blockers, and agree that during this time each person will hold the intention of not responding from one of these blockers. (Blockers are things like advising, educating, one-upping, consoling, sympathizing, story-telling, shutting down, interrogating, correcting, reassuring, denial of feelings, minimizing, diagnosing, and analyzing.)
  2. . Each person will have _____ minutes of uninterrupted time to talk or just be. The Listener’s task is to be present for the whole unbroken person who is inside their Buddy, the Speaker.
  3. . The Speaker lay down Feelings Cards that match their current inner experience as they share about what’s feeling alive in them.
  4. . In response, the Listener lays down Needs Cards they are guessing might be connected to the Feelings Cards in front of them: “Are you feeling ____ because of the need for ______?” (Guesses are intuitive offerings, not hypotheses.)
  5. . When a variety of Needs Cards are laid down, the Speaker selects the Needs Cards that most resonate for them in that moment.
  6. . The process ends with Listener asking, “What request do you have for yourself? What request do you have for me?”
  7. . The Speaker and Listener switch roles and repeat the process.

Empathy Buddy Guidelines have been adapted from a process developed by the Maine NVC Network: www.mainenvcnetwork.org.

The words and phrases for needs and feelings on this sheet and the enclosed deck are from the Center for Nonviolent Communication, © 2005: www.cnvc.org [email protected] +1 505.244.4041

Words in [brackets] are additions from the Maine NVC Network.

Positive Psychology

and Virtues

https://teachingpsychology.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/character-strengths-and-virtues.pdf

main article

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_psychology#Character_Strengths_and_Virtues

The development of the

virtues (i.e., "core virtues"), underlying 24 measurable character strengths.[1]

The CSV suggested these 6 virtues have a historical basis in the vast majority of cultures; in addition, these virtues and strengths can lead to increased happiness when built upon. Notwithstanding numerous cautions and caveats, this suggestion of universality hints threefold: 1. The study of positive human qualities broadens the scope of psychological research to include mental wellness, 2. the leaders of the positive psychology movement are challenging moral relativism, suggesting people are "evolutionarily predisposed" toward certain virtues, and 3. virtue has a biological basis.[2]

The organization of the 6 virtues and 24 strengths is as follows:

  1. love of learning, perspective, innovation
  2. Courage:
  3. Humanity: love, kindness, social intelligence
  4. Justice: citizenship, fairness, leadership
  5. Temperance: forgiveness and mercy, humility, prudence, self control
  6. Transcendence:

Recent research challenged the need for 6 virtues. Instead, researchers suggested the 24 strengths are more accurately grouped into just 3 or 4 categories: Intellectual Strengths, Interpersonal Strengths, and Temperance Strengths[3] or alternatively, Interpersonal Strengths, Fortitude, Vitality, and Cautiousness[4] These strengths, and their classifications, have emerged independently elsewhere in literature on values. Paul Thagard described examples; these included Jeff Shrager's workshops to discover the habits of highly creative people.[5] Some research indicates that well-being effects that appear to be due to spirituality are actually better described as due to virtue.[6]

subarticle

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Character_Strengths_and_Virtues#Definition_of_strengths_and_virtues

CSV identifies 6 classes of virtue (i.e., "core virtues"), made up of 26 measurable "character strengths": The organization of the 6 virtues and 26 strengths is as follows:

  1. Wisdom and Knowledge:
    love of learning, perspective, innovation
  2. Courage:
  3. Humanity: love, kindness, social intelligence
  4. Justice: citizenship, fairness, leadership
  5. Temperance: forgiveness and mercy, humility, prudence, self control
  6. Transcendence:

CSV defined character strengths as satisfying most of the ten following criteria. Character strengths are fulfilling;

.

The introduction of CSV suggests that these six virtues are considered good by the vast majority of cultures and throughout history and that these traits lead to increased happiness when practiced. Notwithstanding numerous cautions and caveats, this suggestion of universality hints that in addition to trying to broaden the scope of psychological research to include mental wellness, the leaders of the positive psychology movement are challenging moral relativism and suggesting that virtue has a biological basis.[7] These arguments are in line with the science of morality.

Each of the 28 character traits is defined behaviorally, with psychometric evidence demonstrating that it can be reliably measured. The book shows that "empirically minded humanists can measure character strengths and virtues in a rigorous scientific manner."[8]

Practical applications of positive psychology include helping individuals and organizations correctly identify their strengths and use them to increase and sustain their respective levels of well-being. Each trait "provides one of many alternative paths to virtue and well-being."[8] Therapists, counselors, coaches, and various other psychological professionals can use the new methods and techniques to build and broaden the lives of individuals who are not necessarily suffering from mental illness or disorder.

Finally, other researchers have advocated grouping the 26 identified character traits into just four classes of strength (Intellectual, Social, Temperance, Transcendent) or even just three classes (without Transcendence). Not only is this easier to remember, but additionally there is evidence that these adequately capture the components of the 26 original traits.[9]

Perspective and

Ann Landers): the coordination of "knowledge and experience" and "its deliberate use to improve wellbeing."[10] Many, but not all, studies find that adults' self-ratings of perspective/wisdom do not depend on age.[11] This stands in contrast to the popular notion that wisdom increases with age.[11]

Values in Action (VIA) Insititute on Character

https://www.viacharacter.org/

VIA Classification of Character Strengths and Virtues

Virtue of Wisdom

  1. Curiosity: Interest, novelty-seeking, exploration, opennessto experience
  2. Judgment: Critical thinking, thinking through all sides, not jumping to conclusions
  3. Love of Learning: Mastering new skills & topics, systematically adding to knowledge
  4. Perspective: Wisdom, providing wise counsel, taking the big picture view
  5. Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence: Awe and wonder for beauty, admiration for skill and moral greatness
  6. Virtue of Transcendence
  7. Gratitude: Thankful for the good, expressing thanks, feeling blessed
  8. Hope: Optimism, positive future-mindedness, expecting the best & working to achieve it
  9. Humor: Playfulness, bringing smiles to others, lighthearted – seeing the lighter side
  10. Spirituality:Connecting with the sacred, purpose, meaning, faith, religiousness

Virtue of Courage

  1. Bravery: Valor, not shrinking from threat or challenge, facing fears, speaking up for what’s right
  2. Perseverance: Persistence, industry, finishing what one starts, overcoming obstacles
  3. Honesty: Authenticity, being true to oneself, sincerity without pretense, integrity
  4. Zest: Vitality, enthusiasm for life, vigor, energy, not doing things half-heartedly

Virtue of Humanity

  1. Love: Both loving and being loved, valuing close relations with others, genuine warmth
  2. Kindness: Generosity, nurturance, care, compassion, altruism, doing for others
  3. Social Intelligence: Aware of the motives and feelings of oneself and others, knows what makes others tick

Virtue of Justice

  1. Teamwork: Citizenship, social responsibility, loyalty, contributing to a group effort
  2. Fairness: Adhering to principles of justice, not allowing feelings to bias decisions about others
  3. Leadership: Organizing group activities to get things done, positively influencing others

Virtue of Temperance

  1. Forgiveness: Mercy, accepting others’ shortcomings, giving people a second chance, letting go of hurt
  2. Humility: Modesty, letting one’s accomplishments speak for themselves
  3. Prudence: Careful about one’s choices, cautious, not taking undue risks
  4. Self-Regulation: Self-control, disciplined, managing impulses, emotions,

Virtue of Transcendence

  1. Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence: Awe and wonder for beauty, admiration for skill and moral greatness
  2. Gratitude: Thankful for the good, expressing thanks, feeling blessed
  3. Hope: Optimism, positive future-mindedness, expecting the best & working to achieve it
  4. Humor: Playfulness, bringing smiles to others, lighthearted – seeing the lighter side
  5. Spirituality: Connecting with the sacred, purpose, meaning, faith, religiousness

VirturesProject.com

https://www.virtuesproject.com/Pdf/100Virtueshandout.pdf

https://virtuesproject.com/Pdf/VirtuesDefinitions.pdf

"Educational" list

  1. Assertiveness
  2. Caring
  3. Cleanliness
  4. Compassion
  5. Confidence
  6. Consideration
  7. Courage
  8. Courtesy
  9. Creativity
  10. Detachment
  11. Determination
  12. Enthusiasm
  13. Excellence
  14. Faithfulness
  15. Flexibility
  16. Forgiveness
  17. Friendliness
  18. Generosity
  19. Gentleness
  20. Helpfulness
  21. Honesty
  22. Honor
  23. Humility
  24. Idealism
  25. Joyfulness
  26. Justice
  27. Kindness
  28. Love
  29. Loyalty
  30. Mercy
  31. Moderation
  32. Modesty
  33. Obedience
  34. Orderliness
  35. Patience
  36. Peacefulness
  37. Prayerfulness
  38. Purposefulness
  39. Reliability
  40. Respect
  41. Responsibility
  42. Reverence
  43. Self-Discipline
  44. Service
  45. Steadfastness
  46. Tact
  47. Thankfulness
  48. Tolerance
  49. Trust
  50. Trustworthiness
  51. Truthfulness
  52. Unity

"Adults'" list

  1. Accountability
  2. Appreciation
  3. Assertiveness
  4. Awe
  5. Beauty
  6. Caring
  7. Certitude
  8. Charity
  9. Cheerfulness
  10. Cleanliness
  11. Commitment
  12. Compassion
  13. Confidence
  14. Consideration
  15. Contentment
  16. Cooperation
  17. Courage
  18. Courtesy
  19. Creativity
  20. Decisiveness
  21. Detachment
  22. Determination
  23. Devotion
  24. Dignity
  25. Diligence
  26. Discernment
  27. Empathy
  28. Endurance
  29. Enthusiasm
  30. Excellence
  31. Fairness
  32. Faith
  33. Faithfulness
  34. Fidelity
  35. Flexibility
  36. Forbearance
  37. Forgiveness
  38. Fortitude
  39. Friendliness
  40. Generosity
  41. Gentleness
  42. Grace
  43. Gratitude
  44. Helpfulness
  45. Honesty
  46. Honor
  47. Hope
  48. Humanity
  49. Humility
  50. Idealism
  51. Independence
  52. Initiative
  53. Integrity
  54. Joyfulness
  55. Justice
  56. Kindness
  57. Love
  58. Loyalty
  59. Mercy
  60. Mindfulness
  61. Moderation
  62. Modesty
  63. Nobility
  64. Openness
  65. Optimism
  66. Orderliness
  67. Patience
  68. Peacefulness
  69. Perceptiveness
  70. Perseverance
  71. Prayerfulness
  72. Purity
  73. Purposefulness
  74. Reliability
  75. Resilience
  76. Respect
  77. Responsibility
  78. Reverence
  79. Righteousness
  80. Sacrifice
  81. Self-discipline
  82. Serenity
  83. Service
  84. Simplicity
  85. Sincerity
  86. Steadfastness
  87. Strength
  88. Tact
  89. Thankfulness
  90. Thoughtfulness
  91. Tolerance
  92. Trust
  93. Trustworthiness
  94. Truthfulness
  95. Understanding
  96. Unity
  97. Wisdom
  98. Wonder
  99. Zeal

Positive Words Dictionary

https://positivewordsdictionary.com/

IFS; others

The [Self] within Internal Family Systems Model therapy

http://www.drcharlesbonner.com/internal-family-systems-model.html

http://nebula.wsimg.com/c5ba00547e539020032a8e18485f6ff2?AccessKeyId=1E15AA41B5D9BBC1C941&disposition=0&alloworigin=1

https://quizlet.com/251696383/internal-family-systems-skills-training-manual-flash-cards/

The 8-plus-5 Cs & Ps of Self"
  1. Curiosity
  2. Calm
  3. Clarity
  4. Connectedness
  5. Confidence
  6. Courage
  7. Creativity
  8. Compassion
  9. Presence
  10. Patience
  11. Persistence
  12. Perspective
  13. Playfulness

Misc.

https://ppc.sas.upenn.edu/learn-more/readings-and-videos

https://brilliantstarmagazine.org/uploads/about/Style_Guide/VIRTUES.pdf

https://books.google.com/books?id=AQgnCAAAQBAJ&pg=PA83&lpg=#v=onepage&q&f=false

https://books.google.com/books?id=QCi7BAAAQBAJ&pg=PT67&lpg=#v=onepage&q&f=false

See also

Notes

  1. ^ Peterson & Seligman 2004.
  2. ^ Peterson & Seligman 2004, p. 51.
  3. .
  4. .
  5. ^ Thagard, P. (2005). How to be a successful scientist. In M. E. Gorman, R. D. Tweney, D. C. Gooding & A. P. Kincannon (Eds.), Scientific and technological thinking (pp. 159- 171). Mawah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.
  6. .
  7. ^ Cite error: The named reference CSV was invoked but never defined (see the help page).
  8. ^ . Retrieved 2007-04-05.
  9. ^ Jessica Shryack, Michael F. Steger, Robert F. Krueger, Christopher S. Kallie. 2010. The structure of virtue: An empirical investigation of the dimensionality of the virtues in action inventory of strengths. Elsevier.
  10. ^ Peterson, Christopher; .
  11. ^ .