Frot

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Two men rubbing their penises together

Frot or frotting (

gay sexual practice that usually involves direct penis-to-penis contact.[1] The term was popularized by gay male activists who disparaged the practice of anal sex,[1][2] but has since evolved to encompass a variety of preferences for the act, which may or may not imply particular attitudes towards other sexual activities. This can also be used as some type of foreplay
.

Owing to its

HPV and pubic lice (crabs), both of which can be transmitted even when lesions are not visible.[3][4]

It is analogous to tribadism, which is vulva-to-vulva contact between women.

Concept and etymology

The modern definition of frot emerged in a context of a debate about the status of anal sex within the gay male community; some in the anti-anal, pro-frot camp insist that anal sex ought to be avoided altogether.

mutual masturbation and fellatio sometimes used the disparaging slang term brownie queen for aficionados of anal sex.[2]

Gay activist Bill Weintraub began to heavily promote and recommend the gender-specific meaning of "penis-to-penis rubbing" as frot on Internet forums sometime in the late 1990s, and said he coined the term. "I don't use the word 'frottage,' because it is an ersatz French word which can indicate any sort of erotic rubbing," he stated. "Frot, by contrast, is always phallus-to-phallus sex." Weintraub believes that is what actual sex is; genital-genital contact.[5]

Alternative terms for frot include frictation, which can refer to the wider meaning of frottage[6] but also penis-penis sex specifically,[7] as well as sword-fighting, Oxford style, Princeton rub, and Ivy League rub.[5]

Sexual practices

General

Frot can be enjoyable because it mutually and simultaneously stimulates the genitals of both partners as it tends to produce pleasurable friction against the

urinary opening (meatus) of the penis head
(glans penis).

Safer sex

Since frot is a non-penetrative sex act, the risk of passing a

HPV (which can cause genital warts) and pubic lice (crabs).[3][4] Vaccines are available
against HPV.

Comparison with anal sex and debates

Some gay men, or

technical virginity, or as safe sex alternatives to anal penetration.[1][9][10][11] This preference has led to some debate in the gay male and MSM community regarding what constitutes "real sex" or the most sensual expression of sexual intimacy. Some frot advocates consider "two genitals coming together by mingling, caressing, sliding" and rubbing to be sex more than other forms of male sexual activity.[2][12] Other men who have sex with men associate male masculinity with the sexual positions of "tops" and "bottoms" during anal sex.[13]

During anal sex, the insertive partner may be referred to as the

The Advocate, one anal sex opponent said that no longer showing anal sex as erotic would help avoid HIV/AIDS, and opined that some gay men perceived him to be antigay when he was only trying to keep gay and bisexual men alive and healthy.[1]

Gay men, and MSM in general, who prefer anal sex may view it as "[their] version of intercourse"

vanilla sex among MSM,[17] and is often thought to be expected, even by MSM who do not prefer the act.[12] "Some people like [anal] because it seems taboo or naughty," stated author and sex therapist Jack Morin. "Some people like the flavor of dominance and submission... some don't."[16]

MSM who defend the essential validity of anal sex have rejected claims made by radical frot advocates. Others have at times disparaged frottage as a makeshift, second-rate form of male/male intimacy—something better left to inexperienced teenagers and "closeted" older men.[5] Odets said, "No one would propose that we initiate a public health measure by de-eroticizing vaginal sex. It would sound like a ridiculous idea. It's no less ridiculous for gay men."[1]

HuffPost contributor and sexologist Joe Kort proposed the term side for gay men who are not interested in anal sex and instead prefer "to kiss, hug and engage in oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation and rubbing up and down on each other", viewing "sides" as simply another gay male sexual preference akin to being a top, bottom or versatile, and adding that "Whether a man enjoys anal sex or not is no reflection on his sexual orientation, and if he's gay, it doesn't define whether or not he's 'really' having sex."[18]

Prevalence

A 2011 survey of gay and bisexual men by the

Journal of Sexual Medicine found that out of over 1,300 different combinations of sexual acts practiced, the most common, at 16% of all encounters, was "holding their partner romantically, kissing partner on mouth, solo masturbation, masturbating partner, masturbation by partner, and genital–genital contact."[19]

Among other animals

Genital–genital rubbing has been observed between males of other animals as well. Among bonobos, frottage frequently occurs when two males hang from a tree limb and engage in penis fencing; it also occurs while two males are in the missionary position.[20][21]

Frot-like genital rubbing between non-primate males has been observed among bull

genital slit or, less commonly, the anus. Penis-to-penis rubbing is also common among homosexually active mammals.[22]

See also

Wikimedia Commons has media related to Frot.

References

  1. ^
    The Advocate
    . Here. 2005-04-12. pp. 39–40, 42. Retrieved 2011-02-12.
  2. ^ a b c d e Nichols, Jack. "Interview: Cockrub Warrior Bill Weintraub". Gay Today. Retrieved April 26, 2010.
  3. ^
    AIDS.gov
    . Retrieved June 8, 2012.
  4. ^
    ISBN 978-0495391920
    . Retrieved August 29, 2013.
  5. ^ a b c Piepenburg, Erik (February 2006). "What's Rub Got to Do With it?". Out. pp. 74 and 76. Retrieved 2011-02-18.
  6. ^ "Aaron's Dictionary of Gay Terms, F".
  7. ^ "Frictation". Sex-Lexis.
  8. JSTOR 584989
    .
  9. ^ Joseph Gross, Michael (2003). Like a Virgin. Here Publishing. pp. 44–45. 0001-8996. Retrieved 2011-03-12. {{cite book}}: |work= ignored (help)
  10. ^
    ISBN 978-1-59021-015-4
    . Retrieved 2011-02-12.
  11. ^
    ISBN 978-1-56023-375-6
    . Retrieved 2011-02-12.
  12. ^ a b c Dolby, Tom (February 2004). "Why Some Gay Men Don't Go All The Way". Out. pp. 76–77. Retrieved 2011-02-12.
  13. ^
    ISBN 978-0805845488
    . Retrieved 2011-03-12.
  14. ^ [1] Archived 2013-10-20 at the Wayback Machine Role versatility among men who have sex with men in urban Peru. In: The Journal of Sex Research, August 2007
  15. ISBN 978-1-936227-00-6
    . Retrieved March 24, 2011.
  16. ^ a b Hunko, Celia (February 6, 2009). "Anal sex: Let's get to the bottom of this". The Daily of the University of Washington. Archived from the original on April 28, 2010. Retrieved April 26, 2010.
  17. PMID 9974466
    .
  18. ^ Kort, Joe (April 16, 2013). "Guys On The 'Side': Looking Beyond Gay Tops And Bottoms". HuffPost. Retrieved April 7, 2022.
  19. PMID 21883941
    .
  20. PMID 7871411. Archived from the original
    (PDF) on 27 January 2012. Retrieved 21 December 2011. They also practice so-called penis-fencing, in which two males hang face to face from a branch while rubbing their erect penises together. ...Perhaps the bonobo's most typical sexual pattern, undocumented in any other primate, is genito-genital rubbing (or GG rubbing) between adult females. One female facing another clings with arms and legs to a partner that, standing on both hands and feet, lifts her off the ground.
  21. ISBN 978-84-493-1325-7
    .
  22. ^ Bagemihl, Bruce. Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity. St. Martin's Press, 1999.

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