Elopement
Elopement is a marriage which is conducted in a sudden and secretive fashion, sometimes involving a hurried flight away from one's place of residence together with one's beloved with the intention of getting married without parental approval. An elopement is contrasted with an abduction (e.g., a bride kidnapping), in which either the bride or groom has not consented,[1] or a shotgun wedding in which the parents of one (prototypically the bride's) coerce both into marriage.
Controversially, in modern times, elopement is sometimes applied to any small, inexpensive wedding, even when it is performed with parental foreknowledge.[2]
The term elopement is sometimes used in its original, more general sense of escape or flight, e.g. an escape from a psychiatric institution. In this context, elopement (or wandering) can refer to a patient with dementia leaving the psychiatric unit without authorization.[3][2] It has also referred to a married person leaving their spouse in order to run away with a third party.[4]
Background
Today the term "elopement" is colloquially used for any marriage performed in haste, with a limited public engagement period or without a public engagement period.[2] Some couples elope because they wish to avoid parental or religious objections.
In some modern cases, the couple collude together to elope under the guise of a
Examples
United Kingdom
In
For civil marriages notices must be posted for 28 clear days, at the appropriate register office.[8]
Southeast Asia
Philippines
In the Philippines, elopement is called "tanan". Tanan is a long-standing practice in Filipino culture when a woman leaves her home without her parents' permission to live a life with her partner. Usually she will elope during the nighttime hours and is awaited by her lover nearby, who then takes her away to a location not of her origin. The next morning, the distraught parents are clueless to the whereabouts of their daughter. Tanan often occurs as a result of an impending arranged marriage or in defiance to parents' dislike of a preferred suitor.
Indonesia
In Indonesia, an elopement is considered as "kawin lari", translated as "runaway marriage" ("kawin", means marriage, "lari" means running/fleeing). This happens if the groom, the bride or both fail to get parental permission for the marriage. As Indonesia is a religiously strict country, a couple cannot be married without a parent's (or next closest living relative) consent. Thus, most Indonesian couples who engage in elopement often end up marrying without acknowledgment or official record by the government.
Malaysia
Similar to Indonesia, an elopement in
West Asia
In Assyrian society, elopement ("Jelawta" or "Jenawta") against parental request is very disreputable, and is rarely practised.[11] In the 19th and early 20th century, Assyrians had heavily guarded their females from abduction and also consensual elopement, when it came to their neighbours such as Kurds, Azeris and Turks, who would abduct Assyrian women and marry them, in some cases forcefully, where they would convert them to Islam.[12]
Pre-marital romance was tolerated by the
In popular culture
The relationship between
Patsy’s Elopement (1915) was a silent episode of an early serial film that deals with the topic humorously created by the Lubin Manufacturing Company.[18]
Searches for elopement photography ideas on Pinterest increased by 128 percent in 2019, with other related terms like "elopements at city halls" and "elopements in forests" also seeing increases in volume.[19]
In
See also
References
- ^ Ayres, Barbara "Bride Theft and Raiding for Wives in Cross-Cultural Perspective,” Anthropological Quarterly, Vol. 47, No. 3, Kidnapping and Elopement as Alternative Systems of Marriage (Special Issue) (July 1974), p. 245
- ^ a b c "The Changing Meaning of 'Elope'". Merriam-Webster. Retrieved 2024-02-21.
- ^ Psychiatric Elopement: Using Evidence to Examine Causative Factors and Preventative Measures [1]
- ISSN 1537-7814.
- OCLC 34162755. (Hmong culture); Alex Rodriguez, Kidnapping a Bride Practice Embraced in Kyrgyzstan, Augusta Chronicle, 24 July 2005 (Kyrgyz culture);
- ^ See Stross, Tzeltal Marriage by Capture, pp. 342–343; Smith, Craig S. (30 April 2005). "Abduction, Often Violent, a Kyrgyz Wedding Rite". The New York Times.
- PMC 4852488.
- ^ Giving notice of marriage or civil partnership Archived 2019-04-11 at the Wayback Machine, Liverpool.gov.uk
- ^ Nasohah, Z, (2014). Prospek Hukuman Alternatif di Mahkamah Syariah Untuk Kes-kes Kesalahan Nikah Tanpa Kebenaran Melibatkan Lelaki Warga Asing. [online] Ukm.my. Available at: <http://www.ukm.my/rsde/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/27-nikah-warga-asing.pdf>
- ^ "Suka duka kahwin lari di sempadan". 10 November 2017.
- ^ Assyrian Rituals of Life-Cycle Events by Yoab Benjamin
- ISBN 978-1-351-98025-8.
- ISBN 9789004097933.
- ISBN 9780520237919.
- ^ Najmabadi, Afsaneh; Joseph, Suad (2003). Encyclopedia of Women & Islamic Cultures (Volume 2 ed.). Brill. p. 215.
- ISBN 9780755642267.
- ^ "Aphrodite and the Gods of Love: Mythology (Getty Villa Exhibitions)". Getty. 2012. Retrieved 2024-02-21.
- ^ Kaufman, J. B. "Patsy's Elopement (1915)". National Film Preservation Foundation. Retrieved 2024-02-21.
- ^ Alexander, Ella (2019-04-05). "Elopements are on the rise: why modern couples are running away from lavish weddings". Brides. Hearst Communications. Retrieved 2019-09-27.
- ^ Grant, Audrey. "Bridge Terminology: Comprehensive glossary of Bridge terms". American Bridge Association. Retrieved 2024-02-21.