Sean Sasser
Sean Sasser | |
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Michael Kaplan (m. 2013) |
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Sean Franklin Sasser (October 25, 1968 – August 7, 2013) was an American educator, activist,
Early life
Sean Franklin Sasser was born on October 25, 1968, in Detroit, where he grew up. When he was six, his parents divorced, after which his father, an army sergeant, was mostly absent from his life,
After high school, Sasser attended the
After finishing school, Sasser found jobs cooking in local Chicago restaurants, but was too fixated on the idea of dying from AIDS. Realizing that he "needed to figure out how to keep living", he moved to San Francisco, whose greater HIV awareness and diversity allowed him to find people he more easily related to – specifically, HIV-positive people closer to his own age – which raised his spirits. Sasser joined a youth HIV-positive movement that advocated attention for adolescents with the disease, and began speaking to groups about his own experience with HIV. He subsequently assisted a support group called Bay Area Positives, for young people of color. He appeared in a number of videos on behalf of the group, including "Not Me", which aired on PBS. He was photographed by Annie Leibovitz for a national AIDS awareness campaign.[4]
Relationship with Pedro Zamora and The Real World
Sasser attended the 1993 Lesbian and Gay March on
Sasser had been living in San Francisco for a couple of years in the 1990s. When Zamora moved into The Real World San Francisco loft, he and Sasser began dating. Zamora asked the show's producers for permission to go out on the second date without cameras, so that he and Sasser could get to know one another in a more natural setting. After the producers allowed this, Sasser and Zamora fell in love, and their relationship became a focal point of the season.
After production on The Real World ceased in June 1994, Zamora visited his family in Miami before returning to San Francisco to live with Sasser. In August 1994, Zamora was diagnosed in New York City with progressive multifocal leukoencephalopathy (PML),[4][7] and was given three to four months to live.[7] On September 3, Zamora was flown to Mercy Hospital in Miami, where his family could be close to him.[8][9] His family was not accepting of Sasser, however,[4] and because the PML gradually took away Zamora's ability to speak,[4][10] Zamora was unable to explicitly communicate to them the importance of Sasser in his life. This led to confrontations between Sasser and the Zamoras, who told him that "Pedro did not need to have a lover anymore", and mostly excluded Sasser from Zamora during his final days.[4] Zamora died on November 11, 1994.[8][10][11] Sasser returned to San Francisco two days later.[4] Six months after Zamora's death, he resumed his speaking engagements for LGBT and HIV issues. In 1995, he spoke at the inaugural White House AIDS conference, and was appointed by President Bill Clinton to the Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS.[3] He moved to Atlanta in late 1995, in order to be with his boyfriend, and hoped to open a café.[4]
In 2008
After The Real World
Sasser was a pastry chef at Ritz-Carlton hotel properties and head pastry chef at The Nines, a luxury hotel in Portland, Oregon.[14][15] He moved to Washington, D.C. in 2012, where, as a pastry chef at a restaurant called RIS,[3] he was praised by the Washington Blade for his homemade ice cream and sorbets.[16] Sasser said of his work, "I want to serve desserts and pastries that people recognize and love to eat, but sometimes with an unexpected twist of surprise."[17]
In June 2013, Sasser married Michael Kaplan,[2][3][17][18] whom he had dated off and on since the 1990s, and with whom he had moved in six years prior.[1] While living in the District, Sasser served as a board member of the AIDS Alliance for Children, Youth and Families. He was active in youth and mentoring organizations, and he and Kaplan served as foster parents to a 4-year-old girl.[3]
Death and legacy
In July 2013, Sasser, who had been HIV-positive for 25 years, was also diagnosed with mesothelioma, a rare cancer of the lungs.[1] Sasser had no known occupational exposure to asbestos, the primary cause of mesothelioma, though studies suggest that "chronic immunosuppression enhances susceptibility to mesothelioma."[19] He died at his home on August 7, 2013, at the age of 44.[1][2][3][17][18] In accordance with his wishes, his body was cremated, and his ashes spread upon places he had been or wished to visit.[18] He is survived by his husband, Michael, mother, Patricia, and his sister, a dancer who lives in Detroit with her husband and daughter.[3][4]
Sasser's relationship with Zamora is credited with breaking a taboo against showing two men in a loving, stable relationship on television.
The Sean Sasser Memorial Endowment Fund at AIDS United was established in September 2013 to mobilize support for programs that improve the health outcomes for gay men of color. Sasser's widower, Michael Kaplan, is the CEO of AIDS United.[22]
In June 2020, Sasser's name was added to the names of American "pioneers, trailblazers, and heroes" on the
References
- ^ a b c d e Duke, Alan; Carter, Chelsea, J. (August 8, 2013). "Sean Sasser, whose ceremony with partner on 'Real World' was TV first, dies". CNN. Retrieved January 8, 2024.
- ^ a b c Oldenburg, Ann (August 8, 2013). "'Real World' star Sean Sasser dies at 44". USA Today.
- ^ a b c d e f g h i j McGonough, Megan (August 13, 2013). "Sean Sasser, part of one of TV's first gay romances, dies at 44". The Washington Post.
- ^ a b c d e f g h i j k l m n o p q Jones, Anderson (June 1997). "Nowhere Else to Go". POZ.
- ^ Pedro and Me: Friendship, Loss, and What I Learned. Henry Holt & Co. pp. 103-109.
- ^ "Video of Episode 19 of The Real World: San Francisco ("Love Rules") at". MTV.com. March 28, 2009. Retrieved 18 January 2011.
- ^ a b Winick (2000). pp. 119-137.
- ^ a b Israel, Betsy (November 28, 1994). "HIV, And Positive, Pedro Zamora of MTV's Real World Lived His Too-Brief Life To Its Limit" Archived 2016-03-03 at the Wayback Machine. People. Vol. 42, No. 22
- ^ A Tribute to Pedro Zamora MTV. November 1994.
- ^ a b Winick (2000). pp. 141-161.
- The Miami Herald. p. 1E.
- ^ "Pedro: Cast and Crew". MTV. 2008. Archived from the original on December 29, 2008. Retrieved January 18, 2011.
- ^ Nick Oceano (Director); Dustin Lance Black, Paris Barclay (Writers) (2008). Pedro (Made for TV movie). United States: Bunim/Murray Productions/MTV.
- ^ Beck, Byron (October 22, 2008). "To the Nines: Adding it all up at Portland's most luxurious new hotel." Willamette Week.
- ^ DiGuglielmo, Joey (September 18, 2013). "Remembering Sean Sasser". Washington Blade.
- ^ Howard, Jonathan (May 16, 2013). "Sasser's sweet tooth". Washington Blade.
- ^ a b c Gosgrove Baylis, Sheila (August 8, 2013). "Sean Sasser, of The Real World, Dies at 44". People.
- ^ a b c "Sean Sasser, 'Real World' star, dies at 44". CBS News. August 8, 2013.
- S2CID 1669566.
- Today. NBC.
- ^ Belonsky, Andrew (August 8, 2013). "RIP Sean Sasser, Whose 'Real World' Made Change". Out.
- ^ "The Sean Sasser Endowment Fund" Archived 2014-03-02 at the Wayback Machine. Retrieved April 6, 2014.
- ^ Glasses-Baker, Becca (June 27, 2019). "National LGBTQ Wall of Honor unveiled at Stonewall Inn". Metro. Archived from the original on June 28, 2019. Retrieved July 5, 2020.
- ^ Rawles, Timothy (June 19, 2019). "National LGBTQ Wall of Honor to be unveiled at historic Stonewall Inn". San Diego Gay and Lesbian News. Archived from the original on April 26, 2020. Retrieved July 5, 2020.
- ^ "New honorees named for Nat'l LGBTQ Wall of Honor at Stonewall Inn". Windy City Times. The National LGBTQ Wall of Honor. June 30, 2020. Archived from the original on July 1, 2020. Retrieved July 5, 2020.
- ^ Laird, Cynthia (February 27, 2019). "Groups seek names for Stonewall 50 honor wall". Bay Area Reporter. Archived from the original on May 10, 2020. Retrieved July 5, 2020.
External links
- Sean Sasser at IMDb