Obsessive love
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Obsessive love or obsessive love disorder (OLD) is a proposed condition in which one person feels an overwhelming obsessive desire to possess and protect another person, sometimes with an inability to accept failure or rejection. Symptoms include an inability to tolerate any time spent without that person, obsessive fantasies surrounding the person, and spending inordinate amounts of time seeking out, making, or looking at images of that person.[1][2]
Characteristics
Depending on the intensity of their attraction, obsessive lovers may feel entirely unable to restrain themselves from extreme behaviors such as acts of violence toward themselves or others. Obsessive love is thought[by whom?] to sometimes have its roots in childhood trauma and may begin at first sight; it may persist indefinitely, sometimes requiring psychotherapy.[3]
The disorder most commonly associated with obsessive love is
Psychology
In culture
Marcel Proust dissected (his own style of) obsessive love in À la recherche du temps perdu.[8]
Fatal Attraction shows Alex Forrest's obsessive love for Dan Gallagher after a brief affair.[9]
You, a 2014 thriller novel by Caroline Kepnes, portrays obsessive love disorder. The novel was adapted into the first season of the Lifetime and Netflix television series You.
See also
- Attachment disorder
- Borderline Personality Disorder
- Erotomania
- Love addiction
- Love at first sight
- Oxytocin
- Relationship obsessive–compulsive disorder
- Sexual obsessions
- Stalking
- Temptation
- Unrequited love
- Yandere
- Yuka Takaoka
References
- ISBN 978-0-553-38142-9.
- ^ Moore JD (2006). Confusing Love with Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control. Center City, MN: Hazelden Books.
- ^ Derrow, Paula. (2014-01-14). "When normal love turns obsessive". Cosmopolitan. Retrieved 2017-03-18.
- ^ What Is Obsessive Love Disorder?, from BetterHelp
- ^ S Freud, Case Histories II (PFL 9) p. 118-9 and p. 70-1
- ^ O Fenichel, The Psychoanalytic Theory of Neurosis (London 1946) p. 382 and p. 533
- ^ C Jung, Man and his Soul (London 1964) p. 191
- ^ H Moss, The Magic Lantern of Marcel Proust (2012) p. 51
- ^ The Fallout from 'Fatal Attraction', The Washington Post, October 16, 1987
- ^ Pimprikar, Aabha; Jha, Geetanjali (Feb 2022), "Love Special - Mad in Love: Psychological Disorders" (PDF), Mind Matters (11)
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Further reading
- Peabody, Susan (1995) [1989]. Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships (illustrated, reprint, revised ed.). Ten Speed Press. ISBN 9780890877159.
- Moore, John (2006) [2010]. Confusing Love with Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control (illustrated, reprint, revised ed.). Hazelden Books. ISBN 978-1592853564.